why are so many young adults,mainly young women, [ages 17-23 or whatever the age range is] feeling ready to settle down? just about every girl i know, minus my bestie & half the time, myself, is tripping about being single or wanting to take the next step with their significant other. My question is why? Why, at such a young age do we feel the need to be tied down? To 'belong' to someone?
Now is the time that we should be experimenting, its the only time that we are really free to explore ourselves, our likes, dislikes, & build & evaluate different relationships with people without the pressures of adulthood that come with dating.
Let's face it: the shit we like now most likely wont be the same things we are into years down the road.
An old schoolmate of mine got married around some time last year, she was 18. What happens 10 years down the road when she & her husband grow apart or their feelings change? I dont mean to be pessimistic but the chances of that marriage lasting are pretty damn slim.
Is our need to be desired that overpowering that we feel incomplete within the confines of our remoteness?
I once read somewhere that "we like people not so much for how we feel about them but for how they make us feel about ourselves."
Speak on it.
ooh, i just did an essay in my english class about a piece of work that mocks this idea... society has painted the perfect picture of a happy woman: married with a hardworking husband, a couple of kids, and their dream home, and they have brainwashed all the young ladies that if you don't marry soon and build that family, you'll end up a lonely old woman with cats. Who's going to prove them wrong?
ReplyDeletei can believe that theory. i caught myself buying into that once, not necessarily the marriage part but i was wondering about what happens down the road if my luck with men doesnt change & i joked to a friend of mine that im gonna be old & sinister with 50 cats---& i dont even like cats! thats just the image that had always been painted in my mind. i had to snap myself out of that & realize that im only 19; i dont need to be worrying about that right now. its ridiculous though
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